To transform something, it must happen at its core, it’s the core foundation where the true strength and power resides.”
This work will forever change the way we understand ourselves and others and once connected you will wonder how you ever got as far as you have. It’s time to work on the most important project you will ever work on and that project is YOU! Be inspired from within, everything you need is within you just haven’t connected to it yet.
My work involves:
• One-on-One Mentoring & Coaching for Self Discovery
• Developing a Mindful Mindset
• Self Leadership / Interpersonal Awareness
• Managing Behaviour and Performance
• Build/Develop Healthy Self Esteem
• Retrain/Reframe Old & Limiting Thinking
• Soul Psychology
• Dream Analysis
Because The Way You Think is Your Business!
I am passionate about awakening the Mind into Action and assisting willing individuals to grow and develop beyond what they believe is possible, by retraining rigid thinking paradigms and belief systems and embracing a more mindful, flexible and open free thinking mindset.
As a qualified practitioner in Thought Field Therapy and I hold Diplomas in Counseling Advanced Counseling and Psychotherapy as well as Stress Management. I have worked with the De Bono Institute in ‘Lateral Thinking’ and the Advanced Practical Thinking Training programs.
The Benefits of Counselling:
– Greater self-acceptance
– Increased vitality
– Release of negative and self-defeating life patterns
– Development of deeper, richer relationships
– Solution focused coping strategies
– Resolution of inner conflict
– More confident and able to make better life decisions
– The discovery and creation of meaning and purpose in your life
– Greater self-knowledge
– Creates an understanding and connection to your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual self
– Navigation and integration of ego self and soul self
– Healing trauma of past
– A greater sense of peace and calmness
– More happiness
Transpersonal Counselling can be distinguished from many other forms of counselling by working with the whole self, not just parts of self, this is inclusive of the physical, emotional, mental and the spiritual dimension of life.
The Transpersonal model includes ways of being or functioning in the expansive inner concepts of transcendent enlightenment and accessing a higher wisdom. It is concerned more with developing our fullest potential as human beings. Crisis, illness and difficulty are placed within this larger context of growth. Our troubles and trials are an integral part of the process of becoming, not merely symptoms we need remove in order to return to our lives as they were before. Once we move through a particular phase of our healing journey we can become more awakened, alive and whole than where we were before our challenges in life began.
Transpersonal Counselling is a holistic approach which values the entire person. Talking, thinking, meaning and purpose, feeling and expressing emotions and creating strategies can all be a part of the process. Whilst the work can move beyond the personal lessons to the spiritual lessons through the conscious and unconscious aspects of self.
It recognizes and utilises different states of consciousness
An important element in the Transpersonal map of the human being is that we exist within a spectrum of consciousness. That is to say that there is a wide range of possible ways that we can experience ourselves and our realities. An ordinary day consists of many shifts in states, from sleeping and dreaming to the cognitive realm of thinking and planning, to the imaginative realm of daydream or reverie, to the embodied experience of vigorous exercise, to the dissolving and merging of making love, to depression, anxiety, peak experiences of oneness with the universe, and endless other possibilities. It is important to realise that each state has its own qualities, potentials and resources.
The Transpersonal approach understands this and seeks to use this knowledge for the benefit of the person. There is a science and process to accessing particular states. The Transpersonal Counsellor is someone who has been trained in guiding others to access specific states for the purposes of healing. The counselling tools and techniques used are sourced from modern psychology, traditional spiritual practices and of course the practitioner’s own experience in life. Simple examples include meditation, guided visualization and deep emotional experiencing.
Working with a Transpersonal Counsellor?
The Transpersonal approach is especially suited to people for whom spirituality is an important aspect of their lives. This can certainly include those who don’t necessarily identify as being “spiritual” but have a strong relationship with personal and moral growth, or are particularly concerned with life’s meaning and purpose.
When someone likes this visits a counsellor who doesn’t reflect these parts of them, they can wind up feeling they are only exploring a small part of what is happening for them and leaves them feeling disconnected and more alone.
Transpersonal Counselling is also a good fit for people who may be undergoing crises of meaning or purpose, and for those who are working to integrate their whole self. Understanding how to use your personal power creates a freedom of self within.
In a relationship counselling context, the Transpersonal approach is very supportive for those who see their relationships as vehicles for their personal and spiritual growth and are committed to being as conscious in their relationships as possible. The greatest and most important relationship we will ever experience, is the relationship we have with ourself. The relationship with self becomes an insightful reflective tool in understanding our relationship with others.
The Transpersonal model has come together as a conglomeration of influences from various sources, not from any particular individual. As such, there may be varying definitions of Transpersonal Counselling that highlight different aspects of the approach. Within any model of therapeutic work, the approach of different Transpersonal Counsellors can vary greatly from person to person. Whilst finding the right counselling approach is important, probably more important is finding the right counsellor for you.
Our intimate relationships are fundamental to our wellbeing. They are an environment in which we unfold throughout our lives, and which stimulate and support our growth as human beings.
Our most intimate relationships also have the potential for the greatest emotional pain. Part of the journey of relationship is that as we become closer, we expose more and more of who we really are, including the parts of us which need acceptance and healing. We show aspects of ourselves to our partner that we don’t show to anyone else.
We see parts of the other which may be difficult to accept or like. When we open ourselves to one another in this way we become vulnerable, and if we are not received fully by the other we can react to this with defensiveness or withdrawal.
Creating Healthier Relationships
When the hurt and defensiveness become so great, couples find it difficult to heal the wounds and move forwards by themselves. They may find themselves in patterns of behaviour and communication with each other which seem cyclical and going only in circles. Couples can lose connection with each other and become more and more distant as time moves on, eventually becoming totally unplugged with no connection.
As a trained and empathic counsellor I help unpack the accumulated baggage that has created cycles of frustration and dysfunction and disconnection and get to what resides at a core level. There is hope for relationships and marriages even when they have reached points of great difficulty and separation.
It is possible to not only return to the way the relationship used to be, but have it become deeper, stronger, more loving and meaningful than it has ever been. As individuals we are offered the potential of personal growth and healing which goes beyond the relationship to all other aspects of who we are in the world. The troubles and trials the couple has been through can emerge as positive events which have stimulated growth as individuals and as a relationship.
What happens in relationship counselling?
You will be supported to rediscover or create anew the meaning and purpose in your relationship or marriage. Over time you will open up, refresh and enliven your connection to each other and dissolve the barriers to intimacy with care and respect. The counselling occurs in a safe, neutral space in which each person can feel heard and understood. The presence of someone who supports both partners equally naturally facilitates an atmosphere of co-operation. You will both be given plenty of space to share your own perspective and position.
As a couple you will become more aware of the ways in which your communication is not being effective.
As you both take responsibility for your own part in this, the communication styles will change to include more care, honesty, vulnerability and intimacy. You will explore the deeper layers of what is occurring for both of you. It is an opportunity to come in contact with and shift patterns, wounds and belief systems which may have been affecting you for much of your life. It is an opportunity to support your partner to transcend their own self-defeating habits. As the process unfolds we may spend time exploring relevant elements of each individual’s story.
This is similar to individual counselling, but with the important addition that the other partner is a witness.
This allows that partner to see, feel, and understand the history and context in which the other is acting or reacting. It builds compassion for the partner and gives context to some behaviours which might seem like overreactions or unfair. This counselling process is an intimate dance between direct couple work and the facilitation of each partner’s individual healing journey. This relationship counselling process uses Transpersonal tools as well as those of Emotion-Focused-Therapy. It offers the benefits of a traditional marriage counselling approach but also has tools, techniques and perspectives which are much broader and have greater potential for deep lasting change. You will be supported to explore and become more aware of aspects of yourself beyond thinking and talking. You will have an opportunity to get in touch with and express deep emotions. You may discover new tools, sources of wisdom, or aspects of yourself which have been undeveloped. Meditation, imagination, expression, movement may all enter the process. The kinds of tools and practices which are employed are tailored to your needs and what feels comfortable or meaningful for both of you.
Types of relationship supported
Most commonly the people who come to relationship counselling are couples in a romantic relationship or marriage who are having difficulties and want to remain together. However this counselling process is also effective for other circumstances or types of relationship, where many of the principles and basic processes described above still apply.
Divorce / separation counselling
Where the couple ending the marriage or relationship want to retain as much of the friendship, connection and love as possible through the transition of the relationship. This is often particularly important in a marriage where children are involved.
This can assist a couple to clarify the marriage commitment they are about to make and to enter the marriage with clarity, grounding and direction. It helps the couple to become clear about each other’s expectations, hopes and concerns about the commitment they are planning to make through marriage. This process can set the foundation for a successful and long-lasting marriage. Counselling support is of course offered for couples who wish to embark on a non-traditional marriage or some other form of commitment ceremony.
It is important to understand that counselling will only truly benefit you when you are open to wanting to learn and are willing to make the necessary shifts and changes that can transform your life for the better.
This is a working relationship, meaning, its a two way street and you will need to meet your therapist half way.
There is work you will be required to do, a call to action, this is what assists with the transformation.
If this is something you feel resonates with you I look forward to meeting you and working with you!
I can work with you in person or via Skype sessions.
How do I make payments?
You can make payments with your credit cards or debit your bank account through Paypal. Payments are made in Australian dollars. If you are paying in a foreign currency, the total cost will be automatically converted to the equivalent Australian dollar amount at the time of purchase.Payment is to be made 48 hours prior to your confirmed session time.
Consultation fee for 1 hour session with Kaylene Wynn is $100AUD
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